What happened when you read that?
Did you cringe?
Did you think, “ew”?
Maybe you felt a little jealous?
Or maybe you thought, “Me too!”
I really hope you thought, “Me too!”
Self love was missing for me for several years. I was floundering around in self loathing, self pity and self indulgence. I was miserable, although I tried really hard to hide it by being a good mom and devoted wife. I volunteered endlessly. I over-delivered everywhere in my life.Â Except for with myself.
And I resented it. All of it.
My “relaxation time” was to sit in front of the television, eating cookies and stuffing my feelings. I told myself that it made me “feel better”.
And it was a lie. Because I didn’t feel better. I was just avoiding feeling bad.
My husband would nicely suggest that I go out and see a movie, or get a mani-pedi or go shopping. He noticed that when I did this, #1 he felt better, and #2, I was a lot happier when I returned home. I resisted him when he would send me out alone. I felt guilty leaving our young son, “who needed me”. My husband was perfectly well equipped to take care of our son for an afternoon, I just wanted another excuse to feel bad.
Until I got tired of feeling bad.
So I took a class. The reason I took the class was to lose weight. I learned a lot of great stuff. I learned really good tools for weight loss. These tools had nothing to do with dieting. They were tools that took me inward, toward myself instead of away from myself. I didn’t practice the tools much right away, because I was still choosing not to love myself. I didn’t really believe in the beginning that anything would make me feel better or lose weight. But the tools were slowly working their magic on me.
After a couple classes, I noticed I was feeling better. I was understanding the tools and applying them. And then I really got to work learning, practicing and mastering these tools.
They weren’t really weight loss tools.Â They were self love tools.
Along the way, I started to believe in myself again. Then I fell in love with myself.
I lost weight too! That result was fun, but it wasn’t the best part.
I understand now what people mean when they say, “the answers are inside of you”.
The answers really are inside us.
But you won’t find the answers…without loving yourself first.
Now, I actively make time for myself. I practice meditation and thought work regularly. I practice giving thanks. This gives me big energy to give love and kindness to others.
How do you practice loving yourself?
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