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6 Steps for Healing Feelings
"It is a grave injustice to a child or adult to insist that they stop crying. One can comfort a person who is crying which enables him to relax and make further crying unnecessary; but to humiliate a crying child is to increase his pain, and augment his rigidity."...
Causing Your Life
Many years ago, I was participating in a seminar. I've done a lot of seminars but this was one of the first. The leader said something to the class that stopped me in my tracks. It was something like, 'You cause your life.' I can't recall his exact phrasing, but it...
Get Your ACE Score to Learn How Your Childhood Might Be Affecting Your Parenting
Do you feel like you're failing at your goal of creating a better childhood for your kids than the one you had? I always told myself that my childhood wasn't that bad. I had enough food, clothes and I've heard of worse childhoods than mine. I wondered why, in spite of...
Clean Pain vs Dirty Pain
All emotional pain is not the same. In my latest scope, I reflect on the recent terror attacks and discuss two types of emotional pain. Learning about clean pain and dirty pain was helpful for me. Knowing the difference caused a shift out of unnecessary worry,...
The Good, Bad, Ugly of Expectations
Today, I talk about expectations. Expectations can be good or bad. I share a couple stories of expectations I've had that caused me various kinds of angst. Here are the definitions of Expectation I was working with in this broadcast: a strong belief that something...
What the heck is a Thought Monster!?
In today's vlog, I share what about Thought Monsters! Everyone has a Thought Monster and each one is unique. Meeting your Thought Monster is a fun and helpful activity for you and your kids. Watch the video, then read on for more about taming your Thought Monster....
Help for Anxious Kids (performing)
Recently, a mom I've worked with wrote me to ask how she can get her daughter to do the work needed before performing. Her daughter is a musician and loves music, but she doesn't learn the songs or practice before performances. I shared my thoughts and a personal...
Tripping While Parenting
My son has always been very clear about what he wants and needs. I respect this. I give him support, healthy and loving boundaries, and guidance when requested. But I'm doomed with the thought that something I do or say will break him. I trip over my ideas and second...
Self Compassion 101
The other day I fell flat on my face. Literally. I was rushing across a street in an unfamiliar neighborhood and BAM! As I peeled myself off the pavement, I noticed 2 things: Blood was dripping from my lip. My mind began flooding with negative thoughts. Some of the...
Inside Out Feelings
Inside Out movie was one of my favorites. Its main message is so very important. I highly recommend it! We saw an adventure with emotions played by characters, "Joy" and "Sadness" among others. Joy wanted to push away and ignore difficult emotions like Sadness, but...