Frequently Asked Questions

Answers to Frequently Asked Questions


General FAQ’s

I’m successful and I feel pretty good most of the time, but I know there is something going on with me. Can you still work with me even though I don’t know what’s wrong?

Absolutely. With Somatic Experiencing, there is no need to tell a story of what happened or even know whether something happened to you. You may feel something is wrong, when it isn’t – and we’ll get to the bottom of that. Or you may have experienced things that were highly stressful in your life. Either way, Somatic Experiencing Coaching can help you feel better. To get started, I offer a 20-30 Discovery Session. Scheduling a session like this can help you decide whether working with me is a good fit or good next step for you.

Where can I learn more about what Somatic Experiencing is?

Please click here to learn more about Somatic Experiencing.

How long does it take for me to feel the results of your work? How many sessions do I need with you? 

The answer to this question varies for each individual. Some people I work with feel better after the first session. But, how you feel or how long it takes will depend on what you are working to heal or to improve in your own life. Consistency is really the key with this work. That may mean weekly, bi-weekly or monthly sessions on a consistent basis over time. Generally, 5-10 sessions are needed to get you on the road to feeling better and some clients need more.

Who does Somatic Experiencing work for?

Well, it can really work for anyone and I highly recommend it no matter where you are in life. My number one commitment to my clients is that they feel safe and secure while we are working together. You are in charge of you and you will always have the option to say no to the tools and suggestions I offer. A big portion of our work together is about giving you agency (control) in your interactions with me and helping you to notice your authentic impulses so you can choose to act on them or not. That being said, Somatic Experiencing works best for people who are ready to make a change and try something new so they can feel better and do better in their life. If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck and stop reacting in ways that no longer work for you, you are likely ready to work through some of the tough stuff so you can begin feel better and more in charge of your responses to life. By the way, we work through the tough stuff in small bits and I am always watching and checking in with you to make sure you feel safe and okay during the process. This work is not magic but it sometimes feels like it is. Your willingness to try out the tools and suggestions I share will go a long way to helping you make the change you want so you can overcome the challenges you may have experienced.

I do not live in California. How can I get an appointment with you despite the distance? 

I work with clients all over the world using a video conferencing application like Zoom, Skype or FaceTime.

Are you a psychologist or therapist?

I am not a therapist. I’m a certified life coach and have been coaching for 25+ years. I’ve studied many healing modalities. I’m also a certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, which is a trauma therapist or what you could think of as a therapist who helps people release stress and trauma. My practice consists of gentle body-mind healing methods which help clients to feel better and do better. Depending on what you need support with, I may suggest that you also work with a psychologist or psychotherapist.

What if I’m not ready to work with you one on one? Do you have other options? 

Check out my Classes page for free and paid classes I have available. Some classes you can work through on your own and some are those where you will work within a group and have access to my teaching and coaching. Take a look at my Thought Monster Series for mind-body books you and/or your kids will love. My Shop has other products you might be interested in.

I’m already a nice person. What does it mean to be kind, aren’t these the same thing?

Although the words nice and kind can be used interchangeably, when I speak about being nice versus being kind, I am speaking of 2 specific things. Generally, being nice is something we do when we override our true feelings and impulses. Being kind comes from an authentic place within ourselves. For some of us, accessing this authenticity requires some healing of past experiences. You may want to subscribe to my free workshop, Causing Kindness, where I speak about some other differences between being nice and being kind.

Which devices is your Tame Your Thought Monster app compatible with?

The Tame Your Thought Monster app works on Apple iOS devices and is ideal on an iPad.The app also works on iPhone.


Other FAQ’s

What is a Kind Card? 

Kind Cards are a set of small cards with steps that help you practice self-kindness so you can feel better anytime. The cards are based on my personal experience as a Somatic Life Coach and the work of Dr Kristin Neff. Currently, Kind Cards are sold out.

I would like to sell your book. How can I do that?

Please reach out to me to discuss this option. Contact me here.

I would like to distribute your material in my school, how do I do that?

I’m working on a curriculum for schools, homeschoolers, and other organizations. Please contact me with your interest in this so we can discuss further. I will notify you when it’s ready.