We recently helped our son move in for his first year in college. He was accepted to his first choice college which happens to be across the country from our home. The lead up to the drop off was a mix of many emotions, thoughts, and concerns.
- He’ll be so far away!
- We have no family or friends near his campus.
- I’ll miss his presence at home and connecting with him daily!
- I want him to do well.
- Will he make new friends?
- and on and on and on…
I can never be 100% sure that my son will stay safe. No one can. But one of the ways I know he’s doing okay is that he’s happy so far. The mama-bear in me will remain ready for signs that things are going well…or not. I’m not interested in turning off my mama-bear instincts. In myriad ways, my maternal instinct has helped me to raise a confident, well-adjusted, and wise young adult. But remaining in a constant state of worry and stress (i.e. mama-bear instincts ON) can build up. Our nervous system needs a break from regular everyday stress as well as the stress that comes with big life changes such as what our family is going experiencing now. I need to make sure I’m taking care of myself and using my Somatic tools to help me release stress and settle my nervous system. Returning my body to a settled and well-regulated state helps me continue to thrive, meet new challenges, and stay healthy.
Will he be safe?