We recently helped our son move in for his first year in college. He was accepted to his first choice college which happens to be across the country from our home. The lead up to the drop off was a mix of many emotions, thoughts, and concerns.
- He’ll be so far away!
- We have no family or friends near his campus.
- I’ll miss his presence at home and connecting with him daily!
- I want him to do well.
- Will he make new friends?
- and on and on and on…
Slowly but surely, many of these concerns have been eased within just a few days of his arrival at college. Old and new friends who don’t live super close – but closer than we do – have made themselves available if he needs help with something. His roommate’s mom who lives 30 minutes from campus offered to have him over anytime and help out as needed. He’s getting along well with his new roommate and has at least one other friend already. He’s involved in the music department, excited about classes, and things seem to be starting off well.
The main worry/question I’ve had and still have has boiled down to this:
Will he be safe?
I can never be 100% sure that my son will stay safe. No one can. But one of the ways I know he’s doing okay is that he’s happy so far. The mama-bear in me will remain ready for signs that things are going well…or not.
I’m not interested in turning off my mama-bear instincts. In myriad ways, my maternal instinct has helped me to raise a confident, well-adjusted, and wise young adult.
But remaining in a constant state of worry and stress (i.e. mama-bear instincts ON) can build up. Our nervous system needs a break from regular everyday stress as well as the stress that comes with big life changes such as what our family is going experiencing now. I need to make sure I’m taking care of myself and using my Somatic tools to help me release stress and settle my nervous system. Returning my body to a settled and well-regulated state helps me continue to thrive, meet new challenges, and stay healthy.
Somatic tools keep me sane and ready for the unlikely event that I’ll need to jump into gear to help him out and rally resources to support him in an emergency.
If you can relate, or the idea of settling your worries so you can meet challenges and stay healthy sounds attractive to you, I hope you’ll consider joining me for classes. In the classes I offer, like-minded moms gather and support each other, learn about the nervous system, engage in somatic activities that help release stress, and equip themselves with skills that support handling any type of stress or life transition.
If you’ve got questions or would like to know more, please feel free to contact me. I’d love to schedule a chat.
Wishing you and your child(ren) well during this enormous and very exciting transition.