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Categories: Kindness, Safety, Self-Compassion, Stress & Trauma, Stories, Leadership, Parenting
Thoughts on Growing Up Kind™
At the end of a recent session, a client said to me, "I feel older." I knew exactly what they were talking about. During our sessions together, this client got in touch with memories and sensations from the time when they were about age 8. Before my own...
Freaking Out When Others are Calm
Ever wonder why one person stays calm in a particular circumstance while another completely freaks out? Our nervous systems are unique, just like each human is unique. Some nervous systems are more regulated than others, some are highly sensitive, and others are...
Will My Baby be Safe at College?
We recently helped our son move in for his first year in college. He was accepted to his first choice college which happens to be across the country from our home. The lead up to the drop off was a mix of many emotions, thoughts, and concerns. He'll be so far away!...
Just One Tiny Bit of Goodness
What if it doesn't take an hour or more in nature or a full-on yoga session to feel better? What if a few seconds or 5 minutes of something you love is enough? Just one little bit of goodness can make you feel better. Multiple times of day of tiny bits of goodness can...
That time my animal instinct almost took over…
"Tears are the safety valve of the heart when too much pressure is laid on it." ~Albert Smith The other evening, someone ran a stop sign as I was crossing into an intersection (I had the right of way) and I almost crashed into his car. We were in a residential...
The Body is a Wonderland
The Body is a Wonderland Info & Practices to Build Your Capacity for Handling Stress Every time I open Facebook, it happens. Facebook feels like the news - which is mostly bad, definitely over-exaggerated, and of course, there's the fake stuff. Just this...
6 Steps for Healing Feelings
"It is a grave injustice to a child or adult to insist that they stop crying. One can comfort a person who is crying which enables him to relax and make further crying unnecessary; but to humiliate a crying child is to increase his pain, and augment his rigidity."...
Causing Your Life
Many years ago, I was participating in a seminar. I've done a lot of seminars but this was one of the first. The leader said something to the class that stopped me in my tracks. It was something like, 'You cause your life.' I can't recall his exact phrasing, but it...
Get Your ACE Score to Learn How Your Childhood Might Be Affecting Your Parenting
Do you feel like you're failing at your goal of creating a better childhood for your kids than the one you had? I always told myself that my childhood wasn't that bad. I had enough food, clothes and I've heard of worse childhoods than mine. I wondered why, in spite of...
Clean Pain vs Dirty Pain
All emotional pain is not the same. In my latest scope, I reflect on the recent terror attacks and discuss two types of emotional pain. Learning about clean pain and dirty pain was helpful for me. Knowing the difference caused a shift out of unnecessary worry,...